The marriage failure rate is much higher when there is a large imbalance in finances, age, and attractiveness.

Despite feeling a strong soulmate connection, if it is volatile, chances are that this a soulmate come to teach you lessons in life. Many times the lessons are harsh and long lasting. In fact, they can ruin your life. Run when you see red flags.

Only people with a personality disorder manipulate the court system to further abuse their spouse.

People with a personality disorder often project their own behavior onto their spouse and set out to ruin their reputation when threatened with divorce. The thought of their own personality disorder being found out during the typical “divorce gossip” propels them to do this.

When our parents told us “the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree” they were right about checking on a future spouse’s family background and making sure they did not pick up these traits or that they have healed. Amber’s father often beat her and Johnny’s mother often beat his father. They each married their unfinished business.

Don’t ever assume a person who claims to be a victim is actually the victim. My rule is that only sociopathic/narcissistic people want pity from others. This is in order to manipulate. The Jussie Smollett case is similar.

When you are an empath and peaceful good natured person you must have boundaries and the moment you see behavior that is completely unacceptable and something you could never do to another person you must cut all ties. Cut your losses before they become too hard to retrieve.

When your lawyers tell you to just settle and get it over with but it doesn’t sit right that a person got away with harming you and your reputation DON’T LISTEN. Johnny should have forced Amber to retract that domestic violence order or he should have served her with one immediately as well so the true story came out when it happened. Certainly he should NOT have written settlement checks to her charities. That made him seem to admit guilt. Sometimes taking the high road with a sociopath is a signal for them to continue harming you. They do not want to resolve issues. They don’t want the fight over. They want to continue harming you and berating you for being a good peaceful person. They are angry at your goodness.

When you have no need to get married or to rush into marriage DON’T! Personality disordered people rush you into marriage before you notice all the red flags. They need that certificate before they show their true colors. If there is financial disparity and age disparity at least get a prenup!

Avoid litigation and the three ring circus if at all possible! It is a waste of money and time. To pay lawyers to resolve your wounding and triggers can bankrupt you. Strategize privately how to extricate yourself from a person with a personality disorder and learn proper psychological strategies and be prepared financially.